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After three and a half years of therapy my therapist said I was done and didn't need it anymore. My parents are in agreement. Sometimes I'll text a crisis hotline just so that I can rant and have someone listen to me talk in circles until I come up with the solution. I'm so tired of feeling broken.

Okay, so... I tried to apologise to my friend and make sure me getting angry this morning didn't hurt him/her in any way, but they said that their not going to talk to me until I show improvement. I asked them what kind of improvement and they said that they didn't know. I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

There has been a lot of good advice given here, and the fact that you are sharing your feelings, both on the crisis line and with us, will help you even if it doesn't feel that way at the moment.

Like SandyCreekAcres I am on the other end of the age scale being in my sixties, but I remember the confusion of feelings when I was a teenager and I have also brought up two children who each had their own difficulties when they made the transition from child to adult.

Do you have any adults in your life that you can talk to? Family, school/college, members of a group that you belong to? If you have a shared passion about something (such as this community on HAJ) it means that you already have a group of people that you can relate to.

Before you go to bed at night try to think of at least one positive thing from your day. It could be as simple as some sunny weather, or someone smiled at you and said hello. However small, hang on to the positives.

Finally, if you need professional help, then take it. It's not failure, it's people who have trained to help those who are struggling.

I hope things get better for you soon.

Joining a choir is a great idea! It's been proved that singing has all sorts of benefits, both physical and mental.

Write your poetry down with ink on paper. That's what us old people used to do! :D I still have a book that I wrote my poetry in when I was in my late teens and early twenties. It's pretty dark and depressing stuff but I kept it because it's part of me, even though that version of me is happily long gone.

Hang in there - you will get through it but it takes time.

I agree with everything above. As somebody who was in that place in life not long ago and truthfully is still figuring everything out, I’m here if you ever want to talk to someone, I might not always be able to offer advice but I’ll always listen (or read) and give support.

Something that really helped me was to have a thankfulness journal. Every day I’d try to think of 10 things I was thankful for and write them out. I couldn’t just say I’m thankful for CD (my cat) I’d have to have at least one sentence say why I was thankful for him. I’m thankful for CD because he never judges me, and is always ready to cuddle. When I reached my goal number say 100 things then I would treat myself to something, something I wanted to buy, or maybe see a movie, anything fun I wouldn’t normally allow myself to do. That helped a lot.

Another thing I honestly would go to the Dr. and get your hormone levels tested, and see if you are high or low with anything. One of the signs something is off in your body is crying for no reason. I know because my hormones are slightly out of wack at the moment, and I’ve gone from never shedding a tear for anything, to crying watching movies I’ve previously never blinked at. It’s horrible, and what makes it worse is everybody acts like it’s normal to have those roller coaster emotions. Well it’s Not normal or at least shouldn’t be what people think is normal. A lot of times mood problems are caused by our bodies being imbalanced in some way. Either they need more of something, or less of another. Some Dr.’s will try to just give you a medication to block the issue, (why a lot of girls are on the pill to deal with bad cramping, or irregular cycles) when really they are just masking the symptoms, and not dealing with the cause of the issue. That is why it’s important to have your levels tested before taking medicine to “fix” the issue, when they don’t know what is causing the issue in the first place. Kind of like someone trimming a horses feet often when they have fonder, but not taking them off of grain or green grass. They know the horses feet are growing extra fast they know enough to keep them trimmed, but don’t know enough to actually fix the cause of the founder.

Update: Dad got moved to a different hospital tonight, and it's even further away. School starts back up on Monday for me(not excited for the new classes/classmates). And I'm just in general not feeling okay.