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My husband's grandmother called us tonight, at 9pm and we have little ones who are trying to sleep. Why she called so late I can't fathom. Why did she call you might ask? To tell us that she heard something from someone on the radio that will solve all our parenting frustrations! She said she had the key to "make" our girls "behave" (side note: every time my girls are around other people I get told how polite and well behaved they are) she said we needed to stand over top of them the entire time and not leave until they are scared enough of "consequences" to do stuff on their own. She complained that our house isn't kept clean enough. She said we had to put our girls in public school because I am not qualified enough to be a good teacher for them. (I was one semester away from graduation with a bachelor's in Education when I had to drop out due to money issues) This woman told my husband that we had better be careful because when our girls are old enough they will resent us for "not letting them learn and not giving them everything they need" meaning public school. I do school work with the kiddos every day. I was homeschooled; and honestly it was the best thing my parents ever did for me. I was able to maintain a scholarship level GPA in college. My husband went to a public school and thinks he is stupid (he isn't, just never learned good study techniques) because that is what his teachers (and grandmother) told him. Plus for our oldest daughter, three different therapist and her pediatrician all agreed that homeschool was best because of her anxiety and ADHD.

If that wasn't insulting enough; she went on to say that I was raised in a spinless house and it's MY fault our girls are "out of control". (They aren't) This woman has no clue how I was raised! She has never met any of my family and knows nothing of my parents. (She said she has inferred this from watching me) My mother is a domestic abuse survivor from both her mother and first husband. (Who literally pointed a gun at my mother and said they only reason he wasn't pulling the trigger was he didn't have any bullets) My mother joined the military to get her and my half brother somewhere safe. My Dad is retired military. He was a Sargent. You can not raise to that rank by being "spinless". You do not survive a literal lifetime of abuse and still come out with the ability to love by being "spineless". I have a very good relationship with both my parents; and have tried to use what they taught me with my girls. (unconditional love and respect which I guess makes me a bad mom according to her?)

There was a whole lot more but I will go ahead and end this. Sorry for ranting and thanks for reading.