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This is a tough situation to be in.

As some of you may remember, my mom passed away in June.

She had a romantic partner which I will call Seymour because of a private family joke (she was on a feeding tube, so she was Aubrey II because she needed to be fed and watered, and he was Seymour who took care of her)

Now, Seymour is a US military veteran, he served during Vietnam in the Navy.

The thing is... he hasn't been himself since her passing.

He hasn't showered or bathed. He hasn't washed his clothes. He hasn't even worn clean clothing. He hasn't even eaten real food. He'll hobble down to the little street store we have and buy Coke and junk food. He isn't even answering my phone now.

My boyfriend checks on him when he gives Seymour the daily mail and says he looks pretty awful and very dirty.

I know he has family in Colorado. He has children and grandchildren there. I just wonder if there is a reason why he hasn't moved there. It's been over 4 months now.

Today, I called the VA crisis hotline and explained the situation to them. Legally, they can't do anything directly for him because they don't have his authorization. However, there are a few things they can do. The representative I spoke with said they will call the sheriff for a wellness check and they also will call the elderly abuse hotline in the county because it amounts to self neglect.

For some reason it just doesn't make me feel better about the situation. I've done what I can from my end.