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It is rough. Everyone will give you tons of advice, but you need to do what feels right. My daughter slept with us from 6 months to 5 years. I dont remember what started it though. She's always had her own bed, but we didn't enforce it. She slept between the two of us and we never had a problem, but everyone is different.

Once they are in your bed it is hard to get them out. Although it was equally me and my daughter who didn't want to change. It was comforting to wake up and have her right there beside me. Where we were living her room was on the other side of the house, and now it is right beside us, so I feel much better. She is now 6, and still sleeps with me if my husband is out of town. Although I threaten her repeatedly about lying still!

Are you in need of a good online parenting support group? This one seems to be far better then anything else out there.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/

Kat, that sounds like a good solution. I will have to try that later. Hopefully I can get my side back lol. I've been sleeping on the floor because we have a full size bed, and that's not really big enough for all 3 of us.

Ammit thanks for the suggestion, I'll have to check it out.

That's great to hear!

I'm happy to lend you an "ear" if you need to talk. Our 2yo started out in his bassinet. However, due to unforseen circumstances he ended up sleeping with us and still sleeps with us. The house we were renting was unexpectedly put up for sale three days after he was born, we decided to buy a house instead, moved in with family in the interim and once it was time to go into his crib he just would not sleep in it. It took us 10 months to find and buy a house, by that point he was pretty much settled into sleeping with us. We were unable to try a lot of the different methods while with family, due to conflicts in parenting styles. We tried when we finally got into our house and he just would not have it. He has a new bed now though and we are slowly, but surely, working on it. He will occasionally nap in it, but is afraid to sleep in it alone at night. I never intended to co-sleep, but don't particularly mind it. If you know how you sleep, there are ways to make it as safe as you possibly can. We have a three month old now and she is mostly in her sleeper at night, but did occasionally end up in bed with us early on. Still does here and there. We tried the bassinet with her and she just could not stay asleep in it and would cry and cry. Luckily she has been a pretty good sleeper since then. She has easily gone 6hrs+ since a few weeks old.

At some point you sometimes have to modify your methods to what works best for your family. There will always be recommendations to do things one way, but there is no one right way. As long as you provide your children the safest and healthiest environment to grow and learn, that you can, that is the best way.