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Wolvevenfrost · Jul 4, 2020 10:39 PM

Sorry if this doesn't belong here but I'm hurting very badly emotionally and just need to rant...

4 of July, I love this day. Fireworks light up the sky in all sorts of colors and everyone is in awe. But, there are also people who work long and hard shifts. Like my mom. She's a CNA at a nursing home and works for 16 hours straight on Saturday and Sunday. She only gets 3 hours of sleep MAX between these days. My cousin's family were waiting until my grandpa got home to start them. He just picked me up from work (11:00 pm). It isn't usually until 12 at night when we get home. It was 12 and they just started...my mom called and begged my grandpa to tell them to stop, she was exhausted. He wanted to get to bed so he told them and left and they stopped. So we thought. I then text my cousin if that was their fireworks she said yes, calm down it's the 4 of July we're celebrating. I told her I know but my mom needs sleep and she can't get it until you stop. "Please I'm begging you. "

:((
What I got sent next was a threat...she texted me what my Aunt had said to her.
She said it's her ranch and they'll do whatever they want. And if you aren't going to pay for it then you need to leave use alone. (Basically saying get off the property and move, this is how my family sends the message.)

All I asked was for them to stop so that my mom could get sleep and we're threatened off the property?! :-S After my dad's death and his side of the family ruining our lives...I really don't need my mom's side of the family hurting us too. Why is my family so toxic? What's sad is, it's been like this since I was little...I just, I don't know what to think about family's anymore...all I wanted for 4 Christmasas now was to have a happy family that supported each other and didn't hurt each other. It's so much worse and deeper than this but basically...my dads dead, his side hates us for no reason, my brothers think my mom's a c, and now my mom's side is threatening us off the property all because I asked and begged nicely...I can't even with life right now I just can't...

Ammit · Jul 5, 2020 2:58 AM

Moved to the proper part of the forum.

So sorry you are dealing with this.

annismyrph · Jul 5, 2020 5:44 AM

so a TON of people ask me why I live in Virginia when my entire family lives in New Jersey ( about a 6.5hr drive )
I say that's EXACTLY why ; you can't pick blood relatives but you CAN pick friends and pixel family
don't forget we are all sisters/ brothers in horse craziness in here and we always cheer, cry, and hug each other when needed
here is more than likely the first of many hugs from your pixel fam {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Wolvevenfrost}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Visions · Jul 5, 2020 6:18 AM

(((hugs))) I am so sorry you are going through this. I haven't seen my side of the family since my mother's funeral 9 years ago.

SandyCreekAcres · Jul 5, 2020 5:39 PM

Also sending cyber hugs your way. I'm so sorry your family is so inconsiderate.

Wolvevenfrost · Jul 6, 2020 1:04 AM

Thank you guys...things have been quite as we're not talking to them but I think it's for the best for just a week or two...I'm just glad my mom did get an okay amount of sleep and nobody was visiting the house at 12 with a shotgun in hand wanting an apology. My cousins family can escalate things very quickly and start huge fights over the stupidest things.

I shouldn't say things like that but...I'm so sick and tired of it I want out. Away. Can't wait for me and mom to move back to Nevada in a year or two. We've been keeping quiet about for obvious reasons.
And I also miss the snow and the fact you can bundle up in endless lairs until your warm. Or snuggle with someone, like my doggos. ❤ Miss that.

HorseAngel · Jul 6, 2020 4:31 PM

I have some family like that on my mom's side(just mean and not decent about anything) and I can Understand Toxic! We don't talk to them and they don't come to family gatherings anymore(for years now) because of it. There is a huge family feud that's been going on for a very long while too and for some reason they blame my mom for Everything that goes wrong, so that just makes things worse anyway! They wouldn't even help my mom out with my siblings while she was in the hospital with me And Left Us Stranded at the hospital, so my dad had to take off work and drive Hours to the city to pick us up a whole Day Later when They Lived in the Same City as the hospital and just flat out Refused to help in anyway at All!
So I kinda know a little of how it is, when ever they Were Around there were always Fighting and it could get ugly as well, but Family doesn't just mean related by blood (you can't pick your blood relatives sadly) but you can choose who to call family! And you have your mom at least and all of us that you can call family :x Be Strong And Hang In There! Like you said just a little longer ;) Sorry it's like that for you! I was blown away when I first joined by the kindness and openness of this community and how everyone supported everyone here so hopefully it helps a little! :)

Forestshadow · Jul 7, 2020 1:28 PM

So sorry to hear that you're having to deal with toxic family.

Wolvevenfrost · Jul 7, 2020 2:19 PM

❤Thanks guys.❤ ...things are still quiet luckily.
Work is keeping me pretty occupied (full time) and my mom's quitting her other job she had cause they took away her bailer pay again but before she does she's getting her vacation time and I'm off this weekend so I'm going to have the whole weekend to spend time with her at least.❤ And then she'll be working full time along with me here at Assisted Living soon.❤ The little things right now that make everything brighter for me.

SandyCreekAcres · Jul 7, 2020 3:06 PM

I'm glad to hear that some sunshine is peeking through your clouds. I hope it continues.

Forestshadow · Jul 7, 2020 8:09 PM

What do you mean by "her bailer pay again" ?

Wolvevenfrost · Jul 8, 2020 12:43 AM

@Forestshadow lol sorry I didn't know how to spell it. Got it completely wrong too. I copied this from Google. Its pretty much exactly as it says.

"A Baylor Plan schedule is another name for a weekend incentive schedule. You either work 32 hours over the weekend and are paid for 40, or work 24 hours and get paid for 32 hours."

Basically, she working those 32 hours and getting regular pay and no overtime pay for those hours once again. So she's quitting cause it's too much work to be not getting what she was promised. She doesn't have benefits either so working with me is just better all around.

HorseAngel · Jul 8, 2020 4:46 PM

Happy somethings are looking up a bit at least! >:D<

Pagan · Jul 9, 2020 5:49 AM

So glad to hear things are looking up. There is change on the way. It's hard to deal with toxic family members.

I have had no relationship with my father for the last four years and can't see that changing. I no longer am willing to accept toxic and narcissistic people in my life. My emotional well being has improved so much without having to deal with him

Ammit · Jul 9, 2020 5:50 AM

I have had no relationship with my father for the last four years and can't see that changing. I no longer am willing to accept toxic and narcissistic people in my life. My emotional well being has improved so much without having to deal with him

Hi, did I write this? :))

Solidarity *hug*

Pagan · Jul 9, 2020 6:16 AM

I think you figured it out earlier than I did. It took me until my mid 40's. Still, better late than never.

*hugs back*

Wolvevenfrost · Jul 9, 2020 8:51 AM

Thanks guys, its interesting to see how many of you not only understand I'm upset but KNOW what it's like to have those kinds of people in your life. Never thought the most relatable and kindest of people would have been on a pixel pony game. :))
But, I'm glad for. I love my pixel ponies to death and I love you guys. ❤Your all the best.❤

Forestshadow · Jul 9, 2020 8:56 PM

I come from a family that has had its share of drama... especially between my mother and my grandmother. So yeah, it's definitely not the healthiest of situations to be in. Glad to hear that your mom will be working along you, it sounds like it will be better for her overall.

Wingedeagle · Jul 14, 2020 11:58 AM

My husband's entire family is the same. We haven't seen any of them except his grandmother and aunt in 7 years. Even for his grandmother we have limited contact because of the lies and other derogatory remarks towards my husband, my kids, and me. They are all the reason we moved to the other side of the state and haven't been back in our hometown in nearly a decade. They even boycotted our wedding because we didn't serve beer.

Forestshadow · Jul 16, 2020 11:31 AM

If they boycotted your wedding because of alcohol not being served, it sounds like it was the right thing to do, because there's no telling what would have happened if alcohol had been served. Your wedding might have become far more than what you wanted. Or at least that's how it feels to me.

Their loss, your gain.

HorseAngel · Jul 16, 2020 1:56 PM

Wow and I thought I was the only one with these same problems with family and feuds and everything! I don't have a relationship with my Real dad for pretty much all of the above reasons and he was the deadbeat alcoholic type anyway and we Never talk or have anything in common and he lives states away which is just fine with me since he Never ever wanted responsibility for me! Hes One of the reasons I don't drink alcohol actually so more power to you, it's definitely their loss Not yours! :)

Wingedeagle · Jul 31, 2020 7:28 PM

Thank you both :)

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