HGG Community Forums

Hang in there man, you can get through this! I know it's tough to deal with things when your main coping mechanisms go out the window for a while but you'll get back to riding and this game can be a really great outlet when that's not possible.

Ultimately if you stay true to who you are, it is possible to get through the tough times and get to make the life you want for yourself.

It is probably exceedingly unrealistic for them to just move, particularly if they are a kid in school. He is also not out to his family let.



Trans is such a hard road to walk, even harder when you are a kid in an unforgiving place. I am so sorry your outside parts don't match the person you really are and that people are cruel to you over it. I hope you are back to riding this week. It is really important in life to find something to hang on to that gets you through. For some folks growing up is something that just has to be endured. Once you can make your own choices you will be able to find a place and a community where you can be loved for exactly who you are. Get through this part of your life and so much will open up to you.

I myself am queer, have an unorthodox family, and have dearly loved gender fluid and trans friends. You are ALWAYS welcome here.

Hey, we're so glad you're here! Welcome! I'm so sorry you're having to deal with a such a hostile school environment, but I'm so glad you have assurance your family will support you.

I'm queer and agender, and I'm only out to a few people and haven't come out to my family yet, even though I know my brother would be completely supportive. It's a hard topic to broach, especially with people you've known your whole life.

This community is full of wonderful, supportive people, and I think you're going to love it.

I am late to the party myself. I am in my 40s, and it hasn't been until the last few years that I realized some things about myself. As Ammit said, we are a very welcoming community here. I am bisexual and asexual, but I have not come out to my boyfriend. My close friends know. The reason I have not come out to my boyfriend is because I know he would not understand because he doesn't understand that there are many nuances to human sexuality. So I just use my friends as emotional support when I need it. My mom would have been supportive, but she passed away last year.

Just do your best to hang in there, and when you are able to be on your own, things will get much better.

Hey there! I'm genderfluid and trans-masc (I am the boyfriend StarsetRoyale mentioned), and I'm just starting to finally come out and transition now, just shy of thirty. In some ways I'm glad I didn't sort myself out a little more until my twenties, because I can absolutely imagine how hellish it would be to deal with all that in high school (which is, I'm inferring, where you're at). On the other hand, though, this probably means you'll be able to transition earlier if you so choose, and that's pretty awesome! I get that things are tough right now (I really really do), but everyone else so far is right: hang in there, because it absolutely gets better!

I do have a few suggestions, if you want to hear them. You said your family will accept you, and that is awesome to hear! Having people in your life that know what you're dealing with and will support you helps so much, and parental support is also necessary to start transitioning while you're still a minor, if that is something you want to do. I absolutely get how difficult and scary it is to come out, and I'm not suggesting you do so before you're ready or if you wouldn't be safe, but maybe you can start with one person, a close friend or family member that you know will be accepting and go from there? I started with my big sister and then my mom, because I knew mom would accept whatever I needed her to and I knew my sister wouldn't even bat an eyelash. My dad and brothers, on the other hand, are varying degrees of transphobic, so I haven't talked to any of them yet. One advantage of coming out as late as I am, though, is that I don't actually need their approval. The people I do have in my corner though, friends and partners and now family members, help so much.

Another thing is one you've already figured out: finding things you love that you can use to cope and de-stress. Riding is great for that! It would be good to have a few more options though, for when that isn't an option. You mentioned art; is that something you enjoy? Sometimes you just need to not think about the hard stuff for a while, you know?

Anyway, I wish you the best and seriously, it really does get better! If you have any questions I might be able to help with, you can absolutely message me!

I just want to offer a hug.

Sexuality/identity is a hard hurdle for all teens and young adults. It can be so much harder when you don't fit in the picture your family paints. The awesome part is you will have your whole life to paint your rainbow. It's ok to hide in the clouds till you are ready to start.

Be Safe.
Be Healthy.
Have fun every chance you get.

The rest will figure itself out in time.