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- Ammit July 2022
- Fiddler July 2022
- Foxhntr26 July 2022
- WhiteValley July 2022
Life has been too hard
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The past couple of weeks has been some of the hardest times in my life and I am struggling to find my place. I'm now almost 13 weeks pregnant and it has been hell. It started off easy but I've been progressively getting more and more sick and it began affecting my job performance. Id have to leave my desk to throw up frequently, I'd throw up of my coworkers cooked something in the office, if someone ate vegetables and I could smell it.
Some back story for me is I have dyslexia and with it comes ebbs and flows of good days. On days I have poor health my dyslexica is worse, it's harder to focus, I may or may not be able to read very well or keep information straight. I took this to my boss thinking she would be a pillar of support but I was instead met this secret hositility. Little did I know she was conspiraing to fire me. All of sudden I was bad at my job despite doing what I was told and trying my best. Nothing I could do was good enough and I knew I wouldn't be able to improve lile they wanted me to. We had a meeting to make an action plan on ways I could improve but that day came and I was met with no plan to action, just a write up! My boss said, "I decided I'm just going to write you up. Hopefully you will improve after this." I was confused and shocked. She told me there were conplaints about not getting things done and I told her I did what she told me. Put it in the task box if I couldn't do it faat enough. I can't help that no one else did it for over a week. I didn't even have access to that bix after I put that information in there.
From the beginning I was set up to fail. Sent to work in a different office than our location with someone who was way too busy to sit down and help me. I kept getting more and more sick and needed to stay home some days because I could not stop throwing up but she would only visit my location after I was able to eat and feeling better. I even got a prescription for my nausea that I couldn't afford due to insurance not wanting to cover it...
She gave me a form to take to my doctor to request accommodations but never even gave me the chance to schedule an appointment. I was fired less than 2 weeks later. At our second meeting she told me she was willing to accommodate me, this was a full time position and they needed someone who could be here.
They fired me the day they handed out bonuses at work on the last day of the month. My healthcare stopped immediately. Luckily I have medicaid through the state but unfortunately for me almost no where takes it.... and if they do they're booked.
So last week was my first full week unemployed, we went to visit my family in Montana as planned before. We flew home on Sunday last week and I got covid, I went to urgent care because I couldn't stop throwing up on Tuesday last week and getting dehydrated. They prescribed me an anti nausea that I cant take due to due increase in birth defects.... I was sick as a dog and had a boiling fever over 102 for several days.
Im finally getting better but my mom called yesterday. My 22 year young sister went to the ER, they found a blood clot in her lung. I am almost 2000 miles away from home, jobless, almost broke, and no means to go home at the moment.
I asked my brother to come to texas to help me move home and thank god he can. Im at my wits end with my relationship as we keep arguing and he can't think that he isnt possibly right about everything. Im tired of arguing, of being sick, of my family suffering, I want a break from life for now.
To top it off we have an ant infestation and they keep biting me.... I'm allergic. :(( -
I'm glad you have family and I'm so glad you went to the hospital when you had COVID.
but I'm so sorry you lost your job. it's very very hard to continue working at the same level when you're pregnant even when you're not sick. I got let go when I was 7 months pregnant, with all the same complaints, well , that's what most pregnant women are like. there ought to be a law protecting women while they're pregnant, but there isn't one.
Move to Montana, that will solve the ant problem! -
there ought to be a law protecting women while they're pregnant, but there isn't one.
There is in every proper country in the world. :( I am so sorry Oatsman. It's barbaric how people are treated here.Need to contact me? Read this first.
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I'm so sorry. I don't live in the USA and what has happened to you wouldn't happen here. There are employment laws to protect people and someone throwing up that much would probably be in hospital for a while. Are there any charitable organisations that can help you with your mental health? What about support groups for pregnant women? With any luck, once you move into the second trimester, your sickness will pass and you will start to feel physically better. I do hope things improve for you.
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@whitevalley, I think she'll be better off when she moves to Montana, but not a lot better off. And particularly, in small companies, employment laws mean very little (if they exist) because you'd have to hire a lawyer, which is prohibitively expensive.
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I was extremely sick for the first 7 months of my pregnancy so I can definitely relate to being soooo tired of being sick. It really does make everything else so much harder when you feel like crap. Hopefully being with family in Montana will help and most people start feeling better in the second trimester. I'm sending you a virtual hug and congratulations on your baby. Pregnancy kind of sucks, but children are pretty awesome.